In our previous post, we discussed a controversial book, "Tiger, Tiger,"
by Margaux Fragoso, in which she discusses a 15-year-long case of
sexual abuse and attraction she experienced as a child and young adult.
Fragoso writes that she learned years after the relationship ended that
she hadn't been the only young object of the man's desires: he
had also molested his sons and foster children.
ABC News reports that over 90 percent of juvenile sexual assault victims
know their attackers; about one-third of the offenders are members of
the victim's family.
The New York Times had Kathryn Harrison review "Tiger, Tiger";
Harrison had experienced a consensual, four-year-long sexual relationship
with her father.
She wrote that Fragoso's book is both "appalling" and "beautifully
Harrison's own controversial memoir, "The Kiss," dealt with
the relationship that began with her minister father when she was 20 years old.
She was sharply criticized for writing that incest could include attraction and love.
Harrison, 49, gently rebuked her critics: "our sexual taboos are so
strong that we shy away from acknowledging evidence of them being broken."
She said people will notice relationships between relatives but engage
in "reflexive denial of what they see with their own eyes."
Harrison said more people need to be able to be open about the existence
of the breaking of the taboo of sex between adults and children, and parents
and their offspring.
She described her father much like the offender in Fragoso's book:
a "masterful manipulator."
One child victimization expert told ABC that "judges and prosecutors
have to know the victims are not necessarily pleased that the guys are
convicted and sent off to prison for a long time. Therapists need to know
that their survivor clients don't necessarily feel a lot of anger
Not everything is as crystal-clear as people would like it to be; too many
people confuse the acknowledgement that these relationships can be complex
and contradictory with an endorsement of sexual abuse, incest or molestation.
Resource: ABC News:
"'Tiger, Tiger' Author Shocks With Memoir of Affair With Pedophile": March 9, 2011